Romantic Love and Anthropology
Author(s): Charles Lindholm
Source: Etnofoor, Volume. 19, No . 1, INTIMATE LOVE (2006), pp. 5-21 Published simply by: Stichting Etnofoor
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Romantic Love and Anthropology
Charles Lindholm, Boston University*
to an idealized
love like a compelling
other. The Western
idea of passionate love can be spreading
theorists argue that romance
is definitely losing their authority due to the conditions
This paper seeks tomove
of love toward a more comparison
nor a uniquely Western
level, and argues that loving love is definitely neither general,
as a form of the almost holy, which shows up
institution. Alternatively, it is best realized
in various varieties
It can blossom
or perhaps fade, however the impulse
it is not
more likely to vanish. The paper supplies a shorthistoryof the studyof romanticlove inWestern
after that goes
Will romantic take pleasure in exist anywhere else? If so , what varieties does it take and how can itbe understood? These types of may seem strange questions, seeing that if there is anything at all thatmodern Americans take for granted, it's the importance - even the requirement - of falling in love. The songs, films, and tales of our distributed culture endlessly describe varia tions in thepain and ecstasy of love as it is located, challenged, dropped, denied or thwarted, only to flare up once again, carrying every before it, or else destroying the enthusiasts in a confla gration of desire (Carey 1969). Based on the romantic cliches, love is definitely blind, take pleasure in overwhelms, a lifewithout love is notworth living, matrimony should be for love exclusively, and whatever less isworthless and a sham. Intimate love can not be bought and sold, love cannot be worked out, it ismysterious, true and deep, spontaneous and compel - possibly themost hard
ling, it might strike anyone
cynic could be laid low by simply Cupid.
For lovers take pleasure in provides 'a kind of high-end salvation... thatcould redeem theirentire existence, even though theymight die of it' (Illouz 1998: 176). While the thinker Roberto Unger has remarked, this best is 'themost influentialmode ofmoral vision within our culture' (Unger 1984: 29). Powerful pictures of romance relentlessly seep into, motivate and animate our ordinary lives - not merely for those individuals who happen to be in popular pursuit of the dream of appreciate but also for people who think love can be described as sham. And so potent is the romantic suitable that ithas steadily attained more and more foreign currency internationally. Cross-cultural studies show thatyoung people from Pakistan toChina, fromPolynesia toMalawi, nowadays are likely to say theyno longerwant theirmar riages to become arranged; instead they expect a passionate intimate affair thatwill
* I want to thankNicole
Hayes forher insightson thistopic. I am hoping her present researchon intimate love inAfrica will do much to help response some of thequestions asked through this paper....
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